You're the boss! You decide the state of happiness or unhappiness, no one is going to work as hard as you to ensure your happiness. If you are unhappy about your jobs, marriages or relationships, think a little more deeply now, which types of person you are? First type is those who put obstacles in the way of feeling happiness , the second type are those who are waiting for things outside them to make them happy, while the last type are those who is the boss for their happiness, they have their own rules of happiness and will not response to what is going on around them, they know happiness is first and foremost a choice.

Everyone wanted to feel happiness, but what does happiness feel like? Most of us think that happiness is the feeling from our body, we feel great within. However, happiness can be the feeling of perfect harmony of life, inner satisfaction or having good things in life. Everyone pursuit of happiness is different, it's very hard to have a common answer that represent everyone, if you want to know, how does happiness feel like, you can begin to recall back your experience that bring you the most happiness, and try to identify the feeling now. Doesn't it feel great if you have done so?

There are certain things that is beyond our control, people can make us feel miserable if you allow them, many times we will associate with them - How to become positive dealing with negative people?. Life can sometimes be very unfair, you may come accross loss of family, loved one, being cheated or divorced. Someone did you wrong, you are in the state of unhappiness, you dwell on the sadness and forgotten that you have a choice, why do you want to spend the rest of your life paying for their mistake? The biggest enemy is yourself, and the only one who can ruin your life is you. Happiness is a choice and the life is yours.

People's sometimes are relunctant to feel happy because they plan not to be happy. There always never ending problems and don't become a victim of circumstance. If that's you, it's time to change and avoid the situations that can make you unhappy. It may take time to find your self-awareness, but looking at where your life now, it can place you further in the future. This doesn't mean that you should ignore your responsibilities and commitment. Be a designer of happiness that bring you joy. 

'I have come to understand that life is best to be lived and not to be conceptualized. i am happy because I am growing daily and I am honestly not knowing where the limit lies.' - BRUCE LEE

There's always an argument that money can't buy happiness, I had written a post about this in october 2007, can money buy happiness? if money can't buy happiness, the same fact goes to happiness can't buy money. 

If money can't buy happiness, what can? Are you sastify with your current job? If you does, on what level? Money is definitely important to survive but there's a need to balance equally between Money and Happiness in long run. Most of time the job we are working now might not be the ideal job we are looking for and many of us fall into the line not by choice but by accident. We accepted the job, learned and stay in the job because of benefits and higher pay, we believe that we don't have any options left to choose.

If you choose to stay in the job merely because the job give what you want and moreover it give you certains level of comfort to perform the task with colleagues you are familiar, routine tasks you have been doing all the while and salary that you can survive, but most of the time, this doesn't ensure you for a lifetime happiness. Till then, do you think a degree is still necessary? A college degree only open up you to the scope in the field you are expert at, but restricted you to other fields to discover. Yet, it came to surprise that most of us doesn't really work on what their qualification for that line and we are taught to major at what field by influenced (by friends, relatives, parents and media) that guarantee a good future at that point of time.

After spending four to five years for a degree and the cost involved, we believe that we love this line and journey, but after working for five to ten years down the road, we lost the faith that it guarantee our happiness. We accept whatever we can take and salary we get, keep convincing ourself that there's no choice in our life and this is suppose life are meant to be, we are locked in here and no way out.  If we keep doing what we already have and what we already know, it's just a routine, it doesn't make us happy. It doesn't fulfill the dream of what we could be. We accept it because we believe that's the way life is.

So, what is money and happiness? If you are given a choice to determine your life with money and happiness, which one would give you more sastifaction. Looking at what we expect and finding out what actually value us most by giving rating and deem most important can give you piece of sastifaction. In fact, the term "money can't buy happiness" is depend on how you give rating to your happiness and money.