How positive are you now? Have you noticed that when you woke up early in the morning, fresh and positive, then someone came to you and keep telling you negative stuff. Your mood for the day will become negative as well. These people have no intention to drain your positive energy, but it's good that you have your own set of thoughts to filter the negativity, and it's best to avoid these people.
Sometimes you may feel uneasy and guilt to avoid such people if they are your family members, friends or loved one. It's inevitable from time to time people just want to find someone trustworthy to listen to their story about how sad their life, or how they don't like their job, not satisfy with their relationship and don't have enough money. People just want to express their feeling out to feel better themselves, you in turn will become negative.
What can you do?
There are only 2 options for you, either you joined them to become negative or get out from there. If you are reluctant to get out from the conversation, you can choose to buy into that conversation and when you spotted them saying about what they don't want, change them to what do you want. Ask them "what do you really want?” In most cases, when you asked them "what do you want?", they would tell you what they want (often negative people don't know what they want) and this change the whole conversation to become more positive, thus helping the other person achieve a more positive person. If no matter how positive you want to change in the conversation and he/she still remained as negative. You should leave for god sakes, you are responsible to look after yourself to be more positive.
How do you know if you are positive or negative?
Often you can tell how positive or negative you are by how you feel. If you were to measure your positive or negative energy by scale of 1-100, giving 100 is very positive and 0 as very negative. How do you want yourself to be? I bet you would want your everyday life to be above 50 positive, so that you can smile more, worry less and stay as happy you could. How can you achieve 50 above daily, it's all based on how you choose to feel? If you choose to be happy, you will remain happy, I know, it's easy said than done, if you can't choose the state of happiness, there's another option you can take, sticks around with positive people or likeminded people, and start attracting their positive energy.
You can see the difference, your day will be more colorful and you would start to see tree dancing and flower blooming.
Cheers ~
